The Modern Siren

Contrary to that great song by The Rolling Stones, I’m here to tell you that you can always get what you want.

The truth of the matter is asking yourself is what you want worthwhile?

Love is something we hold dear to our hearts and we give it freely to the people in our lives, to varying degrees. Husbands and children, family and friends, acquaintances.

Love surrounds the things we do but the absence of love is what brings us down.

You will always have love if what you love is worthwhile.

You might have heard that love is like infinity, always in supply. But love needs love returned to grow and maintain that bond that really is love.

Don’t be a hermit with your love, only when love is shared is when there is love. And then you will find that you have everything you want.

Tags: love needs love, rolling stones, worthwhile

A Simple Shift That Makes You Instantly More Attractive
By Rori Raye
Author of best-selling eBook Have The Relationship You Want and free newsletter

If you’re at all like me, a predictable thing happens to you when you start dating a new man you like. At first, you’re all excited, there’s a spring in your step, and you feel all aglow. People ask you what you’ve done differently.

But then, as you get to know him and become even more interested and invested in him, something else happens. You start to think about him all the time, you begin to worry that you might mess things up, and you’re constantly wondering what he’s thinking about you. You talk about him with all of your friends, dissecting his every move. But there’s no harm in it, because he knows nothing about this – right? Wrong.

OVER-THINKING CHANGES YOUR VIBE

When you think about a man too much, several things happen. Emotionally, you become drained from all the analyzing. You have less energy for the other things in your life – the passions and people that made you the person he was attracted to in the first place.

At the same time, your self-esteem goes down. Why? Because you start hanging your self worth on whether or not things will work out with this one guy. You go from the carefree, spirited woman you are to a fearful, worrying creature. And it shows. Believe it or not, a man can sense when you’re doing all this internal acrobatics about him. Your thoughts affect your feelings and your mood.

But telling yourself to stop thinking about him isn’t so easy. You need a two-pronged approach: a way to stop yourself from focusing all your attention on one man too soon… and a Tool to boost your self-esteem so that you’re being your most attractive you.

WHATEVER YOU DO, DON’T STOP DATING

Once you’ve found a man you think is a potential keeper, it’s tempting to clear out your calendar for him and not even consider other dates. But this is exactly what makes you become fearful and worried about whether he’s going to call and what’s going to happen next. Result: you can’t stop thinking about him, and he’ll pick up on the fact that you’re hinging on his every move.

That’s why you absolutely need to keep connecting with other men and going out on dates with them. When you do, you’re immediately taking the pressure off both you and the guys you’re seeing. It will stop you from over-thinking about any one man, which means you won’t have that clingy, fearful, unattractive vibe I talked about before. The fact that you’re online dating means you have a fantastic Tool at your disposal to keep yourself from prematurely cutting off your options. Use it!

THINK OF YOURSELF AS THE PRIZE

Often, and especially when we meet a man we think could really be “it,” something inside us immediately starts to sabotage it. It’s what I like to call the “nasty voice,” and I’m sure you’re familiar with it – it’s that negative-thinking part of you that says you aren’t good enough to have all the love you deserve from a truly wonderful man.

Well, you do. And since I like visual Tools, I want you to think of your favorite dish. Let’s say it’s chocolate cheesecake. Think of everything you love about chocolate cheesecake and what makes it so wonderful. Who wouldn’t want a piece of that? Same goes for you. Now, whenever you are feeling overcome by feelings of inadequacy, I want you to immediately think of that dessert and say to yourself, “I am the chocolate cheesecake!”

I know this sounds silly, but believe me – it works. It’s so silly, that it will instantly lighten your mood and hence your vibe, so that you really do loosen up and become instantly more attractive. It’s similar to what happens when you’re walking down the street and you’re remembering that great kiss you had with your guy. Instantly, a smile washes over your face and people want to know: “What did you do differently?”

There are specific things you can do to raise your self-esteem that will make you irresistible to a man. To learn more. subscribe to Rori’s free relationship advice e-newsletter. You’ll discover a whole new way of relating to men that will make you feel better about yourself while you find the relationship of your dreams.

Tags: deserve a wonderful man, instantly more attractive, silly but works, you are the prize

By Rori Raye
Author of best-selling eBook Have The Relationship You Want and free newsletter

When we find ourselves falling for a man, it’s normal to start feeling that if we don’t show enough interest in him he might get the wrong message and drift away. We want to make sure he knows we like him. So we might do things like:

Calling him because you heard or read about something interesting, or because you knew there was a great band playing somewhere, or someone told you about some great event that you want to invite him to.
Calling to ask why he hasn’t called you.
E-mailing him, texting him, Facebooking him, sending him a cute card, dropping by his house, or in any way attempting to initiate some kind of contact.
Asking him how he feels – especially asking him how he feels about you or the relationship.
Inviting him to come and join you, or in any way acting like the social director of the relationship.

At first glance, these actions might seem completely harmless. In fact, you may feel that he’ll just see you as being friendly and want to get closer to you. But doing any of these things shifts you into masculine energy and makes you the pursuer in the relationship. When a man feels even a little bit pursued, he’ll feel he doesn’t have to work so hard to win you over and will immediately drop his efforts.

It’s important to understand that the urge to chase him in this manner comes from fear: feeling like we’re going to lose him by not letting him know we’re interested in him. But nothing could be further from the truth. In fact, whenever you initiate courtship you are sending the message that you might be insecure about losing him, and this will make you appear less attractive to him. He feels smothered and feels an aggressive vibe from you that does nothing to inspire him to want to get closer.

It Pays To Be Patient

I know how frustrating it is to sit back and let a man take the lead. We want a man to know we’re interested in him. We want to make it easy for him to ask us out again. We want to seem enthusiastic and easygoing. And often times this means we inadvertently chase him in the ways described above.

It’s true that men need validation as much as we do. But there’s a difference between letting a man know you like him and actually chasing him. When you chase a man, you don’t give him the chance to show you how he really feels about you. And the only way to really be sure of where his heart is at is by creating the space he needs to chase you.

Lure Him, Don’t Chase Him

For a man to feel like he wants to get closer to you, he needs to feel good around you. And the way he feels good around you is when he pleases you. As long as you seem happy to see him and tell him how much you enjoy his company, a man will keep coming back for more. Stay in your feminine energy by being receptive and open to his attention. When he sees that you are a woman who is secure in herself and doesn’t need to pursue him, he will be encouraged to step up his game so another man doesn’t beat him to the chase.

Once you are in a committed relationship with one man, letting him take the lead and continuing to be receptive to him will fuel his passion for you. He will adore you and appreciate you, and you will be able to relax in the knowledge that you are a desirable creature he’d be a fool to take for granted.

There are specific, effective ways to communicate to a man your interest without chasing him. To learn how to do this so that a man will feel inspired to pursue you, subscribe to Rori’s free e-newsletter. You’ll discover a completely different way of expressing yourself that will get you a man’s full attention and interest.

Tags: be patient, chasing him, less attractive, smothering

By Rori Raye
Author of best-selling eBook Have The Relationship You Want and free newsletter

So you’ve finally met a man you really like and can see yourself having a relationship with him. You should make an effort to show him you’re a real find, right?

Actually, no. The fantastic thing about being a woman is that getting a man to see how wonderful you are doesn’t involve any effort at all. In fact, it’s all about simply being, not doing.

IT’S NOT WHAT YOU DO, IT’S WHAT YOU ARE

When we meet a great guy, we women often try to do, do, do whatever we can to make him see what a great catch we are. We’ll go out of our way to do things for a man, plan outings together, and sometimes even say yes to things he wants that go against what we want.

You can’t convince a man to fall in love. But you can lead him there by connecting to his heart. One of the most powerful ways to do this is to let yourself be guided by your feminine energy rather than your masculine. Feminine energy is about being instead of doing. When you focus on simply being in the moment and enjoying a man’s company and attention, you automatically shift your vibe so that he can step into the masculine, doer role.

To do that, you must first be open to receive.

A GREAT CATCH LETS A MAN GIVE TO HER

Inspiring a man to see you as the one woman he wants to be with forever is all about you being able to receive love.

Men fall in love when they give to you, not because of how much you give them or do for them. When you shower him with affection, attention, dinners, gifts, and always go out of your way to drive to his place, it makes him think of you as a mother or a friend instead of inspiring his emotional desire for you.

When you are open to receiving from a man, you are sending a message that you value yourself – you believe you are worthy of his time, attention, gestures, and ultimately his love. So resist the temptation to prove your worth by giving and instead create the space for him to give to you.

A GREAT CATCH SETS BOUNDARIES HE NEEDS TO RESPECT

Men are competitive creatures who value what they have to work hard to get. If he gets a sense that you’re completely devoted to him with very little investment on his part, he’ll question your value.

This means you do not give away exclusivity to a man until you have the commitment you want from him. Instead, you keep dating and meeting lots of different men so that you give yourself a chance to find out what you really want and need from a relationship. At the same time, you aren’t prematurely cutting yourself off from your Mr. Right in case you haven’t met him yet!

When you keep the focus on yourself and keep yourself open to other men, you send the message loud and clear that you’re a woman who puts herself first and that you are a prize. This elevates your “degree of difficulty” so he has to step up his game to get you all to himself…or risk another guy beating him to it.

A GREAT CATCH PUTS HERSELF FIRST

The most important thing to remember when you are dating a man and want him to realize how wonderful you are is to put your happiness first.

If you love taking a dance class every Thursday night, don’t give it up just because he’s in the picture and you don’t want him to think you’re not interested. Letting him know you have a life before him actually makes him more attracted to you – not just because you’re not about to drop everything for him, but because people who are passionate about their interests are interesting people!

So, tell him, “It would feel so great to see Thursday, but I have my dance class that night, and I love it. I’m free Tuesday or Friday.” Then ask him what he thinks. It might feel a little scary to do this with a guy you really like, but the right guy will gladly re-arrange his plans to see you. Why? Because you’ve just proven you’re a great catch he has to woo and win.

Rori teaches women how to break out of the patterns that have been keeping them from truly connecting with a man’s heart so that they can experience deep intimacy. To learn specific ways you can step out of the “doing” role in your relationship and into the more feminine energy “feeling” role that is so alluring and magnetic to a man, subscribe to Rori’s free e-newsletter. You’ll discover even more effortless ways to let a man know he’s lucky to have you.

Tags: are you agreat catch, being a woman, really like, relationhsip, show yourself off

It’s the question all of us fear at one time or another.

“How much do you love me?”

Usually because it’s followed by a demand disguised as a request. With sometimes a bit of pressure and a lot of guilt added in.

“How much do you love me?”

The real answer is: “With all my heart and as much as you love me too.”

Being asked about the depths of love isn’t a game, it’s a strategy to put the other person off kilter. When desire is a want and love is a demand it’s time to start the open communication skills that Rori speaks about.

There is a limit to giving and that your giving needs to be respected and returned, at some point.

Finding that point, however, takes a strength that we are not usually called upon to give.

But it’s not a hardship, it’s not a burden, it is love, after all.

Tags: how much do you love me, question

May I share a bit of wisdom with you? It’ll make you feel better.

I learned this from, T Dub Jackson, a guy who’s helped save thousands of relationships across the globe.

IMPORTANT Little known WISDOM: Men RARELY pull away from you because of loss of interest.

In fact…
He can be DEEPLY in love with you and still pull away…or worse… leave the relationship all together!

How’s that supposed to make you feel better?

Here’s how…
Men pull away for 4 very distinct reasons…

T Dub calls these the 4 Masculine Hero Avatar Principles or 4 M.H.A.P. for short

==>Learn more about WHY MEN PULL AWAY and 4 M.H.A.P.

Once you understand WHY he pulls away, it’s much EASIER to see how you should react when he does pull away.

But that’s not even the best part…

The powerful part is BECAUSE now you know he’s not pulling away because he’s less interested…

You’ll avoid overcompensating, which means you avoid him pulling away FURTHER.

Make sense?

T Dub has a talent for explaining this in a fun way using what he calls his “Magic Traffic Signal”…

==>Watch His Free Video Lesson Here

You’ll get a kick out of his warm Southern accent too:-)

OH! If you dream of being married soon?

T Dub has started one of the biggest marriage movements in history called:

The **Million Marriage Mission**

If you like what he has to say…He’d love to help you put a ring on your finger and get married too!

I’m curious how much closer your relationship will be when you put what T Dub teaches you to use?

Sincerely,
Robert

Tags: love, marriage proposal, Masculine Hero Avatar Principles, relationship, signals