The Modern Siren

There’s only one important thing in our lives and it’s love. If you feel you’re losing love (or you feel you’ve lost the love from your partner) then I invite you to watch Rori Raye’s video here (free registration required).

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Now, this might seem to be a strange question, but consider all of the things that your partner does, day after day, week after week, etc…
“Is it rather a bit too routine to be considered “social” or even something close to how things were when you were first dating (?) and after the love you each have was first declared to each other and the physical feelings of love was first exchanged?

Love does not die, it get’s shuffled under chores and obligations. Love hibernates. Then the daily/weekly routine comes into play and our life becomes dull, monotonous, even robotic.

You can protect your relationship (and keep love alive) by adding small spontaneous moments into your day.

A love note stuffed into a pocket or briefcase professing your love is a great way to start the spark again.

It can be so hard to get away from home life that when you need some one-on-one time special planning is needed and carefully plan the spontaneous moment, then follow through with what you want to do.

Don’t be afraid of an unexpected and even a refusal to participate the first couple of times you do this; it’s hard to break through the well-maintained boring lifestyle.

Do not be turned off of trying a second, third and even tenth time to get your partner’s attention, it will come, be patient. (Just don’t be hurt or offended and you’ll do well and receive the real response you want.)

Good luck!

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It’s not supposed to be so hard, is it?

You do the work, you get a paycheck, you put some money away and you plan for the future you want to have with your wife (spouse).

But the bills pile up and the plan you had isn’t realistic, or even a far-fetched dream… it’s just not going to happen.

Is this a reason to argue? No, of course not.

But sometimes the only way you feel you can be heard is when you start off with something else and then you start yelling… and you can’t understand why you’re not being heard.

You have to stop the yelling.
You have to stop the cutting remarks.
You have to stop and listen and ask why things are the way they are before you start laying the blame at someone’s feet.

Love doesn’t have to be so hard.
Life’s events don’t need to be so dramatic.

You are half of a whole. Be the good half and find the good half in your partner. It’s there. Just stop, listen and stay calm.

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It’s easy to feel down about our relationships. “I’m not being loved enough” or “My marriage is boring” are both common themes that run through our lives at various times.

But when this happens it signals that you have surrendered control of your relationship to some unseen and depressive force.

Getting back control, and keeping it, doesn’t happen with a few spoken words or a simple loving gesture, controlling your relationship for the betterment of the both of you is a major step and a life changing force. It really is.

First you need to define why you feel your relationship is in the gutter. What has happened, or what is not happening, that makes you feel this way?

Is this something you can work at alone or do you need the support of your partner to make positive change in your relationship?

Now, be careful how you answer the above question. It’s easy to push the responsibility of a good relationship onto your partner but often the answer relies on you making small changes that change the entirety of your relationship and move the both of you into a renewed level of love and respect.

Only you have the control of how you approach your relationship and how you enrich both of your lives. Use that control to make the change needed.

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During the life of a relationship, one that endures past the six month mark, and one that manifests itself into a marriage, space can develop between the couple.

It’s not tangible, but it is space, a changing of the path of each person, some call this a “drifting away”.

Drifting away is an angry term, one that provides excuses for not trying to save the relationship because it is drifting away and your partner is becoming out of reach.

“Reach” is what you had when the relationship blossomed into something strong, something that withstood the minor disagreements and arguments that interfered, just a little, and were either solved or smoothed over.

You never lose “reach” you just forget to stretch out your arms to hug the other person.

I want you to practice hugging.

My wife and I have a morning ritual that involves a hug and several kisses and an “I love you” that starts our day and keeps us aware of our commitment when the day is new.

For the next while, start this ritual of reaching out and embracing your partner, there’s always time for a little closeness and an “I love you” to begin your day.

A small step towards reconnecting that may lead to a major shift in communicating more with your partner.

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When we are in balance with our enviroment and the people in our lives we behave like water.

We are a pure clear fluid, wrapping ourselves into the space provided, created, becoming as if clear liquid of happiness and joy was the only thing in our lives.

If you’re like me you’ve experienced this happiness and joy, even only fleetingly, once or twice in our lives.

This pure water of happiness and joy quickly moves beyong our grasp as our lives continue their stagger forward, as we are pulled left and right, out of the clear and true path of happiness, by the needs and desires of others thrust upon oursleves.

Enough!

Stop and pour yourself a glass of water. Look the the surface, as the edge reaches up to cover as much surface of the glass as possible.

Look at the lack of additives, just clean water, nothing more needed to sustain life in all it’s glory.

Purity.

We strive hard to achieve the “sense” of balance because, just as a blind man cannot tell you what blue is, we cannot ever really understand what a balanced life is because we have no frame of reference for it.

We are so smart and yet finding what true balance is will always be a quest. You can start on this path, the one you have strayed so far from starting with our newsletter. Signup on this page.

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