The relationship you want is based on not only what you do, but how you do it.
Your physical relationship can be life-altering, but if true intimacy is lacking, then it’s a shallow relationship without foundation.
But this is not all on your shoulders to achieve.
Intimacy takes two people to create and sustain.
CREATE SAFETY TO BUILD INTIMACY
I’m sure you’ve had friends that just could not hold onto what they thought was a great catch of a man.
While there are many reasons for this, one that becomes a continuing trap is not being able to create a safe space for the both of you.
When you can make a man feel accepted, warts and all, he not only let’s his guard down, but he can also open up to you, which is the start of true intimacy in a relationship.
When a man is comfortable enough to share his deep fears and secrets, he is letting you know, without saying it out loud, that he feels safe with you and is ready for a stronger and more intimate relationship.
This is why a man falls for one woman while letting others go.
WHAT IS EMOTIONAL INTIMACY?
This is a deep learning process that requires you to:
- Withhold judgement
- Do not criticize
- Give him safe space to talk and share his emotions
These are great starting points as you build towards emotional intimacy. They are not hard-and-fast rules for every stage of your relationship.
Sharing, caring and communicating will keep the three pieces of advice above from becoming suffocating.
IT’S OK TO BE VULNERABLE AND OPEN
If you feel nervous, tell him.
When you speak from your heart, you share your innermost vulnerabilities that allow him to not be afraid to reciprocate.
There is power from speaking from deep within your soul, as you unleash your Inner Siren and mesmerize him with your emotional intimacy.
SHARE CONTROL, DON’T FORCE IT
True emotional intimacy is not forced or demanded.
It is not planned ahead, scripted or otherwise “foretold”. It’s what happens when you let go of needing to know and the knowledge then comes from within, from the safe space you have created with your man.
Just as your relationship will progress naturally, so will your shared emotional intimacy be a journey without mile markers.
Be present in the moment. Don’t try to predict what happens next. Let go of the “need to know” so you don’t miss the opportunity to build on the types of moments that will make him crave to be with you.
When you are in the moment with him, you will be more in touch with your feelings and be able to express them more easily to him.
He will sense that trust and be compelled to come closer to you, speaking directly to you from his own heart.
The true emotional intimacy that you want is possible when you make him feel safe as you speak from your heart. The connection you create will be deep, lasting and he will never want to let you go.
Thanks for reading this first step to better relationships. It’s now up to you to take the next step and see what The Modern Siren has for you.